Aphrodite. The goddess of love. The standard for female beauty. Adulteress jealous slut.
At least that is what some of her stories would have us believe.
She is the unattainable standard of beauty that women must strive for. Aphrodite is example of how the patriarchy will try to control and shame you for not playing by their rules.
Be her in the ways men find pleasing. Don’t be like her in ways they don’t.
They tell us she is silly, air headed, shallow and vain. Women are silly, air headed, shallow and vain. Brainless fuck toys.
When I read her stories, I see a women who refused to be bound by patriarchal rule. Aphrodite gives zero fucks about what anyone thought and stood in her power. A power so strong that the patriarchy is still trying to bind her, control her and strip away that power.
Aphrodite is a woman who continues to be herself no matter what the patriarchy tries to do to her. She owns her sexualality. Even though Zeus (patriarchy) tries to take that from her through a forced marriage.
The harder the patriarchy works to control, shame, or disempower a goddess, it’s a sign of how powerful she is.
There is nothing wrong with being a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to get it. Confidence is sexy. Loving the fuck out of what you love is sexy. It’s part of Aphrodite’s message to us.
Lessons from Aphrodite:
Your body is your is own. This can seem like a strange idea in a society in which women’s bodies are props to be used by others. It is easy to disassociate from our bodies and the things that happen to them. Sometimes we need to do that to survive, but we can’t thrive that way. You are meant to thrive.
Embrace your desires. We are taught that female desire is wrong and dirty. That desire is only something men should feel. We should inspire desire in men and be ashamed of doing something so sinful at the same time. Desire, whether it is sexual or spiritual is guide post. It’s what makes Captain Jack Sparrow’s compass work and gets everyone where they are going. There is no shame in that.
Enjoy the physical. We have these amazing physical bodies and we work so hard to deny ourselves pleasure. A women reveling in pleasure is a powerful thing. Earth shaking. And no matter what shape our bodies come in, we all deserve to experience pleasure. Find something/someone that makes you feel good.
What pleasures are you denying yourself?
What desire have you been ignoring?
How have you loved your body lately?